Some Lovely Things

All you need is love and … some lovely things.

A curated list of things, people and places I’ve discovered this week that I love.

Wedding Shoes (with a difference)

Those of you who know me, or have read my bio, or have seen my credit card statement, will know I’m a huge fan of shoes. This week I saw these beauties on Off Beat Bride, they may of course not be everyone’s choice in wedding shoes, but if you’re after something a bit different, then these will definitely fit the brief. These shoes are available via amazon for Show Story

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Wedding Reading

This cute wee wedding reading was shared this week by the lovely Hayley Greer a very talented celebrant. I kinda love it, I haven’t seen it before, it’s super cute, and I just had to share it.

If I was a dinosaur and you were a jet

From An Awesome Book of Love, by Dallas Clayton

If I was a dinosaur and you were a jet…
there’s a chance, a good chance, that we’d never have met.

If I was a river and you were the sky,
if I was down low and you were up high,
Or if I was an apple, and you were a sundae,
if you were a Wednesday and I was a Monday,
If you were spring seasons and I was the fall,
we might never have gotten together at all.

But we aren’t all of those things,
you’re you and I’m me,
and we’re as together as together can be.

And you know I’m aglow, with a smile on my face,
when I wonder what magic you’ll make of this place,
Of this town, of this world, you’ll transform your surroundings!
That spirit inside you is truly astounding…
And when I’m beside you I’m leaping and bounding,
so proud I can hardly contain my heart pounding,
I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU, in so many ways,
over thousands of years, over billions of days,
I love you so much, I would scream it from mountains,
and dance like a fool in the coldest town fountains

I LOVE YOU!

I would paint it on walls, in colours so bright,
that they’ll glow in the dark, with “I love you” all night,
I would march through the rain, I’d jump out of a plane,
put the world on my back, I’ll still race down a train,
And I’ll stand down whole armies, defending your name.

But you know that’s not all that this love is about,
Sometimes it’s a whisper, when you feel you could shout,
Or just being around, when the others have gone,
Or about letting go, when you want to hold on…

It’s about living life with such strength and emotion,
and knowing that waves are just part of the ocean,
And that ocean, that ocean goes on for forever,
just like the love that has brought us together…

I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU, when I’m holding your hand,
I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU, when you’re making a plan,
When you’re thinking a thought, When you’re dancing a dance,
When you’re just hanging in by the seat of your pants…

I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU, I’ll say it again
tell all the strangers to tell all their friends
Make it a song and we’ll all sing along,
I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU, you make me feel strong.

You make me feel younger, you make me feel brave,
you make me feel something that words can’t contain.
And if you were the future and I was the past,
if I was too slow and you were too fast,
If you were a cloud and I was a ghost,
if you were long distance and I was up close…
I’d still love you no matter what sense it would make,
I’d love you whenever, whatever it takes.
I’d love you no matter, ’cause you’re you and I’m me…
Together forever

In love as can be.

When they can’t be with you on the big day

This little story is bound to make you smile, especially those of you who are fur parents or having a destination wedding and the fur baby can’t come to the wedding. Story bought to you by Style Me Pretty

“Lauren and Josh are from Chicago, and decided to tie the knot in Southern California.  This decision meant that their lovely pup Jackson wouldn’t be able to be at the wedding.  Lauren surprised Josh on their big day in the cutest way, by bringing along a life size cut out of Jackson, so he could share their day” Check out the photos below.

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Photo via: One Love Photo
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Photo via: One Love Photo

 

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Unity Ceremonies? Do I need one?

All you need is love and … a unity ceremony?

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A unity ceremony is an act you can incorporate into your wedding ceremony which symbolises the joining of two separate lives, the idea is that as individuals you are both special and just as important separate, but when joined together you create something unique and beautiful. A unity ceremony  can also be used to symbolise the joining together of two families, if one or both of you already have children, either together or separately.

You do not have to do a unity ceremony, and you should (in my personal opinion) only include one if it is something that absolutely speaks to you.

There are a few different options, that I’ll outline below, and by no means is this the complete list, and there may be a suggestion on this list that sparks an idea with you and your loved one for something completely original.  Go for it I say!

Wine/Beer Ceremony – You each choose a wine (red and white work well), but obviously two that work well together, and you each pour a small amount from your individual glass into a centre glass and then both take turns taking a sip (or a gulp) from the center glass. This also works extremely well with beer if you’re not a wine fan.

Love Letter and Wine Box – You choose a bottle of favourite wine (or beer) and both add love letters to each other (that you have previously written) into a box, to be opened on your one year anniversary.  It’s a nice reminder of what you were both feeling on your wedding day.

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photo via: tenahseetreasures.etsy.com

Elephant Toothpaste – It’s a funny sounding science experiment, involving you both adding chemicals together to create a pretty spectacular explosion of types.  Awesome to add for a bit of drama to your ceremony.

Unity Candle – Use a large candle and then both the bride and groom light the candle using their own individual candles. This is probably the most common unity ceremony performed at weddings. Important to remember to use hurricane lamps if you are having your wedding ceremony outside, to protect your flame from going out.

Reverse Candle Lighting – The reverse candle lighting ceremony starts with the bride and groom lighting their individual candles from a single/joint one and then proceeding to then light candles held by their bridal party, who then help to light each guests candle.  You would end up with a beautiful sea of candle light, each lit from the same candle.

Sand Ceremony – Both the bride and groom (and children if they are being included) pour different coloured sands into a central vessel, creating a pretty pattern. Each different coloured sand represents a different person. If both the bride and groom are from different areas, you could use sand from your hometown beaches.

Hand Fasting – Hand fasting is a Celtic tradition which involves binding the hands of a couple with ribbon or cord either before, during or after reciting your vows, it is used as a way to symbolise your commitment and devotion to one another.

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Tree planting – All about the environment and everything green? Then you may want to include a tree planting as a way of symbolising your union.  You can choose any type of plant/tree you like, and then the tree can be displayed in your home afterwards.

Unity sandwich – You like peanut butter, and he likes jam, perfect, use these two spreads (or any other favourite sandwich fillings) to create the perfect sandwich.

Jumping the broom -Jumping the broom is a time honoured tradition where the bride and groom actually jump over a broom.  The act symbolises a new beginning and the sweeping away of the past.

Hand washing ceremony – You and your groom wash your hands in a large bowl of water. The washing of your hands symbolises the fresh start that you are embarking upon in your marriage, while having your hands dried by your spouse symbolises the act of being vulnerable to each other, and letting yourself be cared for by another.

Mixing Oil and Herbs – If you’re both foodies, then you could mix herbs and oil together as part of your unity ceremony.

Creating art together – Purchase a large canvas, and then each of you choose a colour that represents you, and then you create a painting together using the two different colours. The upside is you now have a meaningful piece of art work to display in your home after.

Lock unity – Each of you choose a lock with a key, you both place your wedding band on the lock and use the key to lock it before the ceremony.  This symbolises your separate and individual lives, during the ceremony, you use the keys to open the locks, exchange your wedding bands and then entwine the two locks and lock them together, symbolising your commitment forever.

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Photo via: www.loveitsomuch.com

Unity hour glass – Very similar to a sand ceremony, you use a decorative hour glass to pour your separate sand into. Plus side is that you now have a useful item to use in your home.

Brand – For those of you farmers, or those getting married on a farm, you could have a brand made of your initials, either as two different brands that you could join together on the day or one brand with both your initials together, that you can brand a piece of decorative wood together. It would be a pretty impressive part of your ceremony.

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Fishermans Knot – The Fishermans knot is also know as the ‘lovers knot’ It is made from two cords which represent you as individuals, as you fasten the two cords together this act represents the joining of your two lives in marriage. Once the knot is completed then this represents your future strong, and only becoming stronger under pressure.

As you can see there are a multitude of different options if you are thinking about including a unity ceremony as part of your wedding ceremony, and maybe this list may spark some ideas for something original to you as a couple.  The options are endless.

 

 

 

 

 

People We Love: Hayden Campbell – Photographer

All you need is love and … some wisdom from a wedding professional.

Now, I know a lot about weddings, but not everything, so “People We Love”is a series of interviews with wedding professionals, who will share their stories and wedding wisdom.

Meet Hayden Campbell: Black Label Photography

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Business Name: Black Label Photography

Tell us a bit about yourself and your business:  I have been shooting for about 4 years , started out shooting  landscape and surf photography which still remain  my number one passion.  Living in the Catlins you cant walk five steps with out falling over something beautiful to photograph! The ocean and beach are my main focus for everything including portraits. I had some help getting in to wedding photography which I am really grateful for as it’s such a daunting thing to get into , one special day…don’t mess it up!!

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What do you love about your job? Meeting new people and hearing new yarns , everyone has had a beer or 8 and are dead keen for chat.

What do you do in your spare time, hobbies/interests? Spare time? What is that!! Ha Chasing waves with the boys and hanging out with my 6 month old Asher !

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What one thing do you wish every wedding couple knew? Time Management!! Happens every time  “we’ve got heaps of time ”   nope we had heaps of time and now we are late !

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Any wedding trends you love, or would love to see disappear? Nooo!!  Its all good , if you’re planning a wedding don’t let what’s in or out of trend influence what you do. If you love it and its your vision just roll with it , its your big day who cares what  old uncle Gary thinks !

Any great/interesting stories about working with a couple?  Just the classic old Brides right in to it and the groom is over it, haha, groom normally gets a dirty look from his new bride and pulls his head in ,quite common …even I was one one these!!

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What two pieces of advice would you give a couple planning their wedding? First and most importantly enjoy it  , it goes by so quick , delegate jobs and dump some stress to other people , they will be happy to help and stoked to see you relax and enjoy the day!

Secondly Time Time Time ! Give yourselves heaps and expect things to go wrong, somethings you can not control but if you have a bit of time up your sleeve it will make it easier to deal with!

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One insider tip/trick to pass on? My insider tip relates to me actually photographing your wedding. Check your gear and check it again then check it some more! If its a vital piece of equipment (camera body ,flash ,memory cards ) have 2 of them.You do not want to be part way through the day and have something fail!This is my worst fear , SD cards can corrupt so shooting 2 simultaneously may just save the day. Enjoy the day and enjoy the people , the vibe you give off will have a massive impact on your images . Smiles are contagious!

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The man himself: Hayden Campbell

If you love the images you’ve seen and the wedding wisdom Hayden has imparted and his vibe and want to have a chat or see more you can contact him here:

Black Label Photography: Black Label Photography

Email: hayden.blacklabel66@gmail.com

Facebook: hayden.blacklabel photography

Instagram: @hayden.blacklabelphotography

“Wedding Dress of the Week”

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Dreaming of that perfect dress to make you feel like a princess on your wedding day?  Need a little inspiration? Not sure what’s out there?

Here’s this weeks “Wedding Dress of the Week”

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Dress: Vera Wang

The love the fact that this gown is an almost dove grey in colour, just a little different than the traditional white/cream/off-white. Head over to the Vera Wang website to see more gorgeous gowns.

Things I Love

All you need is love and … things I LOVE.

A curated list of things, people and places I’ve discovered this week that I love.

Fancy wedding car

Want something a little bit different for your wedding day, then here it is! It could be classed as a little ‘over the top’ but then again it is your wedding day! Each car is covered in over 300,000 crystals which were each shaped into diamonds and then hand glued on. These cars go for over a million dollars each, and one has already been sold and is cruising the streets of Dubai.

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Mercedes-Benz SL600 covered with Swarovski crystals

Wedding day advice

Great wedding planning advice from Alice du Parca (beauty contributor of Brides magazine)

Keep your Mum constantly in the loop.  If she’s involved and up-to-date, she’s less likely to feel neglected and throw an attention-seeking Mumzilla tantrum.

New wedding day trend

Not a meringue wedding dress type of girl?  Want something that’s still elegant and sophisicated but that you’ll feel comfortable and relaxed in, and that shows your style. Well, a new wedding trend is wedding jumpsuits.

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The Nepheli jumpsuit by Temperley
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Jumpsuit by Ellie Saab

I happen to be a huge fan of these jumpsuits, I think they look extremely elegant anything that makes you feel comfortable and relaxed and shows your personality and personal style is a big thumbs up from me.

“Wedding Reading Wednesday”

Are you thinking about including a reading in your wedding? Have a read of a previous post here about the what, why and how of wedding readings To read or not to read?

There are wedding reading suggestions all over the internet, and frankly it can get a bit overwhelming if you google it, (especially after a wine or two late at night) so I thought I would give you a bite size  each Wednesday, just two different readings (enough to fit in your mouth at once).

Here’s this weeks suggestions:

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Les Miserables by Victor Hugo

“The future belongs to hearts even more than it does to minds. Love, that is the only thing that can occupy and fill eternity. In the infinite, the inexhaustible is requisite.

Love participates of the soul itself. It is of the same nature. Like it, it is the divine spark; like it, it is incorruptible, indivisible, imperishable. It is a point of fire that exists within us, which is immortal and infinite, which nothing can confine, and which nothing can extinguish. We feel it burning even to the very marrow of our bones, and we see it beaming in the very depths of heaven…

What a grand thing it is to be loved! What a far grander thing it is to love! The heart becomes heroic, by dint of passion. It is no longer composed of anything but what is pure; it no longer rests on anything that is not elevated and great. An unworthy thought can no more germinate in it, than a nettle on a glacier. The serene and lofty soul, inaccessible to vulgar passions and emotions, dominating the clouds and the shades of this world, its follies, its lies, its hatreds, its vanities, its miseries, inhabits the blue of heaven, and no longer feels anything but profound and subterranean shocks of destiny, as the crests of mountains feel the shocks of earthquake.

If there did not exist some one who loved, the sun would become extinct.”

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Shall we Dance?

“We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life mean? But, in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all the time, every day.”

People We Love: Laura Giddey – Wedding Celebrant

All you need is love and … some wisdom from a wedding professional.

Now, I know a lot about weddings, but not everything, so “People We Love”is a series of interviews with wedding professionals, who will share their stories and wedding wisdom.

Meet: Laura Giddey – Wedding Celebrant

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Business Name: Wedding Celebrant – Laura Giddey

Tell us a bit about yourself and your business: A few years ago, some close friends of mine got engaged and asked me if I would take their wedding.  It was completely an honour to be asked and so I went about getting my licence to marry them.  Every wedding I’ve done has been special but that first wedding was EXTRA special as they are still good friends of mine, have been big supporters of my business, and it was so beautiful to watch them say their vows. And to choke up as I announced them as husband and wife! Since then I’ve done nearly 100 weddings and I’ve loved every single one.  I get to write a personalised ceremony for each couple and meet them in a really cool time in their life.  I feel very lucky to do this job, and to work with other celebrants and vendors in the industry that are cool, creative, and open minded.

What do you love about your job? What don’t I love!  Obviously I love love, and I love weddings otherwise I probably wouldn’t do this job.  But a couple of specific loves; 1) hanging out with the groom before the ceremony starts and the bride arrives and watching him tear up a bit when she comes in, 2) being able to marry Australian gay couples and celebrate their union when it’s not recognised at home. I also love the dresses and the vows and all the tears.

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What do you do in your spare time, hobbies/interests?  I house and pet sit so that keeps me moving house every few weeks and making numerous furry friends.  I do some nannying, cleaning, and help in a food truck as other sources of revenue.  I love weird films, documentaries, true crime stories, reading, and podcasts.  And chocolate.

What one thing do you wish every wedding couple knew? That you can do pretty much anything to celebrate your wedding.  The legal requirements are so few, and any good celebrant will make sure they happen smoothly, so the rest of the day is totally up to you! There are no rules.

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Any wedding trends you love, or would love to see disappear? I ask all of my couples if they want to get their wedding rings tattooed on during the ceremony, and if they want an eagle to fly their rings down the aisle.  I see  these things in blogs and would love to tick them off the bucket list.  I love mismatched colours and genders in the bridal party, and both parents walking both people getting married down the aisle.  I don’t want to call anything out that I’m sick of in weddings, so I’ll tactfully say that I would love people to only do things in weddings that are meaningful to them!

Any great/interesting stories about working with a couple? One 8 year old ring bearer wept through his uncle’s vows.  A bride said she appreciated how her soon to be husband loved her despite her farts, in her wedding vows.  Another couple wanted to do something memorable and symbolic of the awesome union of them coming together in marriage.  So we did a science experiment called the “elephant’s toothpaste” which foamed in a colourful mess.  You Tube it for more details.

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Elephant’s toothpaste science experiment

 At another wedding we surprised the two witnesses by putting two lollipops under two chairs in the ceremony space before all the guests arrived.  The two lucky people didn’t know they’d be signing the paperwork until we got to that part in the wedding, and I got everyone to look under their chair.

What two pieces of advice would you give a couple planning their wedding? At each decision point, ask yourself if what you’re doing is how you want to celebrate your day, or if you’re being dictated to by your friends, peers, parents, or Pinterest!  Invest in a videographer or just a friend who can set up a video.  The day will pass so quickly and it’s lovely to have a record of the ceremony which will feel like a blur.

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That one time the bride arrived on a donkey!

One insider tip/trick to pass on?  When your wedding starts, ask your celebrant or minister to invite you and your love to take a moment and a deep breath and look each other in the eye, pausing for a few seconds.  Again, the day passes so quickly and it’s nice to rest in the moment and acknowledge what’s happening, before we rush ahead to the next things.  Pausing is ok! You’ve got time!

If you think Laura is awesome and would love to get in contact with her, here’s where you can reach her:

Email:          laura.giddey@gmail.com

Instagram: @celebrantlauragiddey

Facebook: Wedding Celebrant – Laura Giddey

Website: lauragiddey.co.nz

Things I Love

All you need is love and … things I LOVE.

A curated list of things, people and places I’ve discovered this week that I love.

DIY for the lazy or craft-challenged bride

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Photography: Alison Gootee

Table decorations can be the ban of a brides life when you have to factor in colour, style and budget into the mix then it can get really difficult. This tip comes straight from the Queen of DIY herself: Martha Stewart so you know its going to be good. Use rolls of wrapping paper as table runners. Pick a colour and pattern that matches your colour pallette and then simply unroll it down the center of the table. Done.  If you’re going with  a  rustic vibe then kraft paper rolled down the middle of long tables looks very effective as well.

Zoe and Morgan 

Zoe and Morgan have just celebrated their first anniversary of their custom engagement and wedding range. They have a bespoke service which creates pieces that cater to those who seek something beautiful, elegant and completely unique.

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Freya and Deco Complete Set – featuring engagement and two wedding bands.

How completely gorgeous is this Freya and Deco set? If you’re a fan of art deco style then you’ll be all over this, and with Zoe and Morgan having a bespoke service you can have your dream engagement and wedding bands completely customised to what you want. And who doesn’t love that?

RSVP cards

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From what I’ve seen around the ‘wedding discussion/planning’ groups one of a couples biggest pet peeves is getting people to RSVP to their wedding, getting them to RSVP by the required date is like asking some people for their first born child. So this funny RSVP card will strike a chord with almost every bride.  Once again this little piece of awesomeness comes to us from  Off Beat Bride

You can say THANK YOU now.

People we love: Nicola Wall – Celebrant

All you need is love and … some wisdom from a wedding professional.

Now, I know a lot about weddings, but not everything, so “Tradie Tuesday”is a series of interviews with wedding professionals, who will share their stories and wedding wisdom.

Nicola Wall  – Marriage celebrant

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Business Name: Nicola Wall – Celebrant

Tell us a bit about yourself and your business? I am married to Tyron and have 3 children aged 7,5 and 1 1/2 . I’m trained, registered secondary school teacher (social sciences) who is currently at home running after no3 child and starting to look forward to picking up some part time teaching. I applied to become a celebrant initially because I had previously mentioned what an awesome job it would be – my little sister told me I had to do it as she could not find an available celebrant for any of her choices of wedding dates, and I have continued renewing my registration because I love it.

What do you love about your job? Absolutely no two weddings are the same.  I get to share in people’s most happiest of days and have a good stickybeak at the fabulous dresses, decorations and family dynamics!

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What do you do in your spare time, hobbies/interests? I have 3 children – what spare time?

What one thing do you wish every wedding couple knew? Grooms need to try on their wedding trousers prior to the day.

Any wedding trends you love, or would love to see disappear? I wish people didn’t care so much what their families/tradition says – it’s good to a point, but the best weddings are the ones where the couples choose elements/elaborations that are uniquely ‘them’.

Any great/interesting stories about working with a couple? Do you mean like the time the butterflies wouldn’t leave their cage at the conclusion of the ceremony? Or the bride that was 45 minutes late because of stock on the road and no cell phone coverage? Interrupting a wedding because the thunderstorm hit 2 minutes too early? The couple that nearly couldn’t get married because they’d not collected their licence in time?

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What 2 pieces of advice would you give a couple planning their wedding? Don’t be scared to ask questions and think outside the square.

One insider tip/trick to pass on? There is no ‘right way’ for a wedding ceremony nor one size fits all.

Think Nicola sounds like ‘the best celebrant ever’? Then contact her here:

email: nicolawallcelebrant@gmail.com

Phone: 0272317174 or 4544277

Website: www.nicolawall.weebly.com

 

 

 

Things I Love

All you need is love and … things I LOVE.

A curated list of things, people and places I’ve discovered this week that I love.

Minglo

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Photo via Off Beat Bride and Jenny GG

Never heard of it? Well me neither until this week. Over on Off Beat Bride (one of my favourite wedding planning/dreaming sites) they introduced us to the idea of Minglo. It’s a cross between mingling and bingo (get it), so say you have a large wedding where a lot of the guests don’t know each other, then this is absolutely perfect. You go ahead and print off the download sheet they provide and then fill in the bingo squares with interesting facts, for example one square might be, someone who has seen all the Star Wars movies, and another square might be someone with more than 3 tattoos, then you hand the sheets out during the mingling section of the event, usually while the couple are away having photos taken, and then the guests play Minglo, filling in their Minglo squares with the person’s name who matches the description.It’s a great way to get your guests talking to each other, and you could have a prize for the person who fills their card up.

 1,000 paper cranes

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Photo from weddingyurts.co.uk

So in Japanese culture cranes are said to mate for life, and live 1,000 years, which makes them an a powerful symbol of fidelity. Traditionally it is the Father of the Bride who gifts the 1,000 paper cranes for wedding decor. And it is believed that anyone who folds 1,000 paper cranes is blessed with a wish, and good fortune.I personally think paper cranes are gorgeous, and could be an inexpensive (although labour intensive) wedding decoration. I have seen them used as a wedding ceremony backdrop, and even hanging from the ceiling in an venue. Absolutely stunning.

Milk and Cookie Shots

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Photo from Food Porn

Now I’m all about milk and cookies, and putting them together is absolute genius in my books, and that is exactly what Food Porn website has done. I think these would made cute, yummy little treats by themselves, possibly after desert, but if you want to take it up a notch, and why would you not, you could add an alcoholic beverage of your choice. I’m thinking a splash of Baileys in each one, would not be a bad idea. The website has very easy instructions (with photos, for those of you not baking goddesses) for how to make these cute little cookie shots.

You can say ‘thank you’ now.