All you need is love and … some insider info from a celebrant.
I’ve been lucky enough to do a job I adore and have been the celebrant at a lot of weddings, and every single one, I try and learn something from, especially the one’s where things maybe don’t go according to the plan. I thought I would put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard in this case and share some of the things I’ve learnt to assist you in your wedding planning.
- There will always be someone who turns up in jeans, regardless of the dress code. My personal belief is that there are only two occasions where you should show your respect for an occasion and dress accordingly and that is a wedding and a funeral. Unless of course the dress code is super casual (eg jeans and t-shirt) you should always put on a nice pair of pants.
- There will always be that one person who thinks it’s funny to say “There’s still time to run” to the groom before the ceremony.
- Make sure your dress fits properly. Make sure it is tailored specifically for your body, so you don’t have any gaping areas, or are not worried about ‘the girls’ accidentally falling out at any time. It will look better for photos and you will feel and thus look better if you know it fits perfectly.
- Make sure that grooms/groomsman have ironed their shirts and not just pulled them straight out of the packaging moments before the ceremony, and in advice from another celebrant you can read about here: People we love: Nicola Wall – Celebrant, make sure the gents have also tried on their pants, to make sure they are the right length, especially if they have been tailored for them.
Every bride looks beautiful on their wedding day
- Allow a lot more time for everything the week and day of the wedding, everything will take longer than you anticipate, in my experience with brides, especially hair and make-up. It will be easier to fill in extra time (think a sneaky champers with the girls) than to be in a panic because you are late. If you are having your photos before your ceremony then making sure you have budgeted enough time in the morning will make sure you have ample time to relax and get those awesome photos.
- Weddings bring out the worst in people. Especially family. Make sure everyone is on the same page with duties and expectations, otherwise it will drive you crazy and take the shine off your wedding.
- Lollipops are awesome distractors for little people on the big day during the ceremony. Lollipops encourage them to generally stand still and they find it hard to make too much noise with their mouth full of lollipop.
- Even the most chilled out bride will be stressed the day before the ceremony. The key is to be organised, not just yourself but your groom, family and wedding party.
- Don’t leave writing your vows till the day/evening before your wedding. It will put too much stress on yourself and make your celebrant tear her/his hair out.
- Remember your wedding day should be a reflection and celebration of your love, not what great Aunty Fanny thinks you should have.
- Have a plan B, just in case.
- Every wedding is beautiful, whether it is big, small, expensive or on a budget.
I am absolutely honoured every time I get to bring together two people who have decided that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. Every wedding is full of love and joy and those looks that lovebirds share with each other, and it makes my heart sing to be able to witness and share that each time.