All you need is love and … a wedding rehearsal.
Fridays in wedding season are rehearsal days for our house hold. Why? … because I believe a rehearsal is an essential part of the wedding planning process.
I have a checklist that I use for every wedding rehearsal to ensure that I cover all the essentials before the big day.
Here’s whats on my checklist:
Logistics – where is everyone going to stand, the guys – hands in front vs behind, suits open vs closed, how far apart will they stand?
Rings – Who will have them, are they carried by the ringbearer, or just held by the best man? If carried by the ringbearer when will he give them to the best man at the beginning or will he be responsible enough to hold onto them throughout the ceremony and then give them to me for the ring exchange?
Signing of the marriage licence – who are the witnesses, do they know they are signing, where are we going to do the signing?
Procession (walking in) – the order of the processional, how the bridesmaids should walk, where to, where they should stand. Where should the flower girl/ring bearer walk to and stand during the ceremony.
Double check of all pronounication of names – do I have the pronounication correct?
Recessional (walking out) – where to walk to, who’s walking with who (sometimes its the first time bridesmaids/groomsman meet each other)
Touch base with the MC – who are they, what time will they be there on the day, let them know I will be giving the couples copy of the marriage licence to them on the day, and remind them not to leave it on the back seat of the taxi (haha)
Music – who will be controlling the music? If we are using my PA then teach who ever is going to be in charge of the music how to control the volume etc. Also use the rehearsal to time the music to make sure the bridesmaid and bride know when to start walking etc.
Any special elements – if there are any special elements to the wedding – ring warming/unity ceremony etc, its a good chance to make sure everyone knows where that’s going to be done, and how.
Microphone – test the volume for the event.
Pick up the licence – take the licence from the couple, so I have it for the wedding day, and there’s no chance of it being forgotten.
Vows/Readings – show the bride and groom how the vows are written out for them and that I will have them on the day for them, and show whoever is doing a reading how that is written and where they will stand while they are doing the reading.
Wedding rehearsals can be done anytime during the week leading up to the wedding, if you have little people in your bridal party I think it’s best to do it the day before, because they have such small attention spans/memories, they need to know what they are going to do tomorrow, not in 3 days time, they won’t remember that far away.
A rehearsal settles everyone’s nerves, a wedding day can be stressful enough, so my aim to to make sure everyone feels happy about where/what/how they are going to do on the day.