All you need is love and … to keep calm on your wedding day.
We all know weddings are stressful, especially if you’re a bit of a control freak, like me. You have that overwhelming feeling that no one is going to be able to do it properly except you.
Here’s some tips to keep the stress levels down and let you actually enjoy your wedding day.
- You don’t have to please everyone – your day is about you and your groom, not your mother in law, not Great Aunty Fanny, but the two of you. Make sure your wedding day reflects who you two are.
- Keep communication lines open – if you’re nervous, let someone know, if your feeling overwhelmed, let someone know. You will be surrounded by loved ones on your wedding day, tell someone how you’re feeling so you can get help if you need to.
- Delegate – you picked your maid of honour, or bridesmaids because you trusted them right? So now is when you call on them to help you out. Make sure they are aware of your expectations on the day.
- Look after yourself – make sure you eat the morning of your wedding, breakfast and lunch. Make sure you stay hydrated. Get some exercise in the morning if you know that will make you feel better. Take some time to yourself among all the chaos, to just breathe and reflect.
- Have an emergency kit organised – make sure your bridesmaids know where it is and who’s responsibility it is to take it with you. See previous post https://angelaport.com/2015/10/03/all-you-need-is-a-wedding-day-emergency-kit/ for what should be in your emergency kit.
- Remain focused on what’s important – it’s not just an expensive party, you’re getting married !!!
- Pace yourself – it’s going to be a emotional, long day, filled with friends and family. Don’t drink too much before you even get to the wedding ceremony. Remember it’s ok to take some time for yourself or for the two of you to sneak away for a quiet moment together.
- Have an itinerary/timeline of the day – make a detailed timeline of the day, who’s going to do what, when etc, and make sure everyone has a copy of it, especially the groom. It will make everyone feel a lot more relaxed on the day.
- Make some “Call anyone except the bride” cards – these cards list contact details of everyone who has responsibility on the day. It means you won’t be contacted if the flowers don’t get delivered, or great Aunty Fanny gets lost, let someone else handle that.
- Plan B – at the rehearsal, decide who will make the call if Plan B needs to be executed, due to weather etc, then that person needs to contact anyone who needs to know about the change in plans. Decide at what time the decision will be made, so everyone’s on the same page.
Remember everyone you have invited to the wedding loves and cares about you, so only want the best for you. They won’t mind if things don’t go according to plan, or you cry during the ceremony. Just relax and remember it’s not just a wedding it’s a marriage you’re creating.